kindness is strategic and necessary

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purlturtle

It's now been a bit more than a year for me on this webbed site, so let me make a little introductory post to pin:

Hi, I'm Purlturtle (Purl, Jana, she/her)!

I'm shamelessly and endlessly obsessed with Bering and Wells (Warehouse 13) - this is them, my beloveds:

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Originally posted by lonely-night

I will reblog pretty much anything to do with them. 90% of what you'll get here is gonna be Bering and Wells. The rest is usually feel-good/affirmation stuff, queer stuff, cute stuff or historical stuff (bonus if a post meets two or more of those criteria). Also language stuff and writerly stuff, because (drumroll) I am a writer. Find my stuff over on AO3 (and sometimes here too).

Other media that I love include Star Trek and Discworld (my first loves), and more recently Legends of Tomorrow and Wheel of Time. I'm nowhere near as obsessed with any of those other ships than I am with my OTP, though.

I'm old (40+) but a baby in fandom spaces, having only really found my way there in 2020. Before that, I was mostly muddling along on my own. So I'm extra grateful to have found so many friends here!

I love asks, be they from memes or just randomly dropped in my inbox, so if you're curious about something, just go ahead and ask! I'll never mind that (just as I'll never mind comments on any of my fics!), and you won't ever be a bother to me.

Thank you for your attention, and have a wonderful day!

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purlturtle

Have an updated gpoy!

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Speak Your Language Day!!

Falls ihr das noch nicht wusstet: ich bin deutsch - in Deutschland geboren und lebe auch hier (nicht das amerikanische “I am German because my grandma’s family is from there”). Englisch ist die zweite Sprache, die ich fließend spreche; meine Muttersprache ist deutsch.

Ist schon manchmal spannend, wie sehr insbesondere Amis denken, dass sie mit einer anderen Ami sprechen, wenn ich mit ihnen auf Englisch kommuniziere. Immerhin ist in den Fandoms, in denen ich unterwegs bin, der Frauenanteil so hoch, dass sie mich in aller Regel nicht für einen Kerl halten 😅

Wie dem auch sei, ich bin gespannt zu sehen, wie viele und welche Sprachen ich heute so alles von meinen Mutuals gezeigt bekomme! Freue mich auf euch!!

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asphyxiatedredherring

Anonymous asked:

could you please explain how the safeword traffic system works?? i really cant wrap my head around it

femsubdenial answered:

Sure.

Red means stop. No more negotiation, something has crossed a line (too painful, something bad that wasn’t negotiated, etc.)

Yellow means that you need a break or that something is too much, or that if the top continues then you’re going to “red” soon.

Green means that things are going well and you want to continue if not ramp it up a little.


While a bottom might blurt out red or yellow, I’ve never seen a bottom volunteer “green”. It’s usually said in answer to when a top is checking in to make sure everything is okay. Asking “How are you?” and getting an answer of “fine” or “okay” might mean the bottom is just on autopilot and reflexively answering. Asking “What’s your color?” and getting “green” or “I was very close to yellow when you stopped” is much better.

One of my favorite doms to watch at parties was doing a pre-scene negotiation with someone he hadn’t played with before and said something like “Now, just between you and me here ;-) , my favorite color is yellow. It’s not about taking anything I can dish out. I promise you, I can always go harder. I want to know how you’re doing. I’ll likely yellow you, on purpose, a few times, just to find out where your limits are and then aim for a little below that. I don’t want to hear ‘green green green, green green red’ because then the scene’s over. I want some indication of how you’re doing and when you’re getting close to what you can handle, okay?”

And then, whenever she yellowed, he praised her. And why wouldn’t he?? She gave him vital information that allowed the both of them to have more fun!

drkdreams

Recently I have heard some discussions on also adding BLUE to this system for medical issues. It would function like RED but also in one word alert your partner you are having a medical issue, e.g. asthma attack, body cramps, low blood sugar, dizziness or some other sysmtom that is a problem for you. If you have already discussed medical issue with you partner, which you should do, blue might key them into something they can respond to with that knowledge to help rather than red and having to explain further.


Example: if I have asthma and communicate with my partner that it’s been bothing me recently and here is where my inhaler will be during a scene and I start having breathing issues and can’t stop coughing or catch my breathe to make out long or multiple words, I can say blue and they would know to get my inhaler. Or they would know to ask medical related questions in relation to stopping rather than thinking they pushed too hard.

sleepwithgiggli

I hadnt heard of the BLUE addition, but that’s great. Thanks for spreading the word about it.

Bering and Wells Road Trip Art!!

The amazingly talented @moddieeeex made this beautiful art for my Bering and Wells Road Trip fic!

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A chibi-style picture of Bering and Wells standing behind a photo-op frame in front of a Rockie Mountain vista in reds and yellows. The frame is a dark blue and swirly. Helena is wearing a dark blue “Helena Montana” sweatshirt; Myka has sunglasses stuck in her hair.

Find the fic series here:

A Bering and Wells Road Trip Story - NuMo, Purlturtle (NuMo) - Warehouse 13 [Archive of Our Own]
An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works
archiveofourown.org
bering and wells warehouse 13 my fic art commission
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bluecatwriter

I've been rereading some of my old travel diaries from my early 20's, and one of them seriously reads like a slow-burn fanfic. I was on tour with a small indie band and there was a cute guy my age traveling with the band. And we spent two weeks "accidentally" hanging out and sitting close to each other at the merch table in smoky bars and reading Tolkien poetry to each other and taking walks at the beach and sharing food and stargazing and sleeping next to each other on living room floors and giving each other back rubs and talking late into the night gazing into each other's eyes.

We never kissed. We never even held hands. I pretended to fall asleep on his shoulder once in the car, and one day I gave him a little kiss on the cheek. And that was it. We said goodbye two weeks later and we both thought it was forever and I pined so hard that I threw up.

A month later he sent me an apologetic letter saying that he was sorry for being so presumptuous when I clearly had no romantic interest in him, but that he had to be honest that he was in love with me. And I was like, "What?! He was in love with me this whole time???"

So yeah, we're married now (celebrated ten years last autumn) but if you're ever wondering if your slow-burn fic is too slow, or that your characters are too oblivious, just remember me and my now-spouse mutually pining over each other every single second of the day for two weeks without ever saying a word to each other about how we felt. I was reading my own diary yelling, "JUST KISS HIM ALREADY!"